Harmony
Also known as accord, concord
The need for relationships and environments to be free of discord and conflict. A sense of things fitting together peacefully.
When met or unmet
When met
- Relationships flowing smoothly
- Elements fitting together
- Peace with surroundings
When unmet
- Discord and conflict in relationships
- Things clashing
- Disharmony in environment
Common expressions
I want peace and harmony Why can't we all get along? The conflict is exhausting
Strategies
- Addressing conflicts before they fester
- Creating environments that feel peaceful
- Finding ways to honour different needs simultaneously
- Choosing relationships that support peace
Recognition questions
- → Is there conflict or discord in my relationships or environment?
- → Do things feel like they fit together or clash?
- → Am I at peace with the people around me?
Somatic markers
When met
- A sense of everything fitting together
- Relaxation and peace in the body
- Ease in relationships
When unmet
- Tension from discord
- Discomfort at conflict
- Longing for peace
Shadow side
- Avoiding necessary conflict to maintain false harmony
- Suppressing your own needs to keep the peace
- Controlling others to maintain harmony
Cultural considerations
Harmony is valued across cultures but approaches differ: confronting conflict to resolve it vs avoiding conflict to maintain surface harmony.