Humour

Also known as laughter, levity

The need for lightness, laughter, and the ability to see the absurd or amusing in life. A capacity for levity that balances life's seriousness.

When met or unmet

When met

  • Lightness and laughter
  • Finding the funny side
  • Not taking everything gravely

When unmet

  • Too serious
  • No laughter or levity
  • Heavy without relief

Common expressions

I need to laugh Where's your sense of humour? Laughter is the best medicine

Strategies

  • Spending time with people who make you laugh
  • Watching, reading, or listening to comedy
  • Not taking yourself too seriously
  • Finding the absurd in difficult situations

Recognition questions

  • When did I last genuinely laugh?
  • Is there lightness and levity in my life?
  • Am I taking everything too seriously?

Somatic markers

When met

  • Belly laughter and lightness
  • Tension releasing through laughter
  • Spontaneous joy

When unmet

  • Heaviness and over-seriousness
  • Inability to find lightness
  • Everything feeling grim

Shadow side

  • Using humour to avoid difficult feelings
  • Sarcasm or mockery that harms
  • Deflecting with jokes when sincerity is needed

Cultural considerations

Humour styles vary greatly: dry, slapstick, ironic, self-deprecating, absurdist. What's funny is culturally specific but the need for humour is universal.

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