Relaxation
Also known as letting go, unwinding
The need to release tension and let go of effort. A state of ease where the body and mind can unwind from accumulated stress.
When met or unmet
When met
- Tension releasing
- Body and mind at ease
- Letting go of effort
When unmet
- Constant tension
- Unable to unwind
- Tightness that won't release
Common expressions
I need to relax I can't unwind I'm so tense
Strategies
- Scheduling time specifically for relaxation
- Activities that help you unwind: baths, massage, gentle movement
- Reducing stimulation and demands
- Practising letting go of tension consciously
Recognition questions
- → Is my body holding tension?
- → When did I last truly relax?
- → Am I always wound up and unable to let go?
Somatic markers
When met
- Muscles releasing and softening
- Breath deepening and slowing
- A sense of letting go
When unmet
- Chronic tension in body
- Inability to unwind even when trying
- Exhaustion from being always wound up
Shadow side
- Using relaxation to avoid engagement
- Numbing activities mistaken for relaxation
- Inability to tolerate any tension
Cultural considerations
Relaxation practices vary: baths, massage, meditation, socialising, solitude, substances. What relaxes is culturally learned.