Integrity

Also known as congruence, wholeness

The need to live in accordance with your values and to be undivided within yourself. A state of alignment between what you believe, say, and do.

When met or unmet

When met

  • Living by your values
  • Wholeness and consistency
  • Actions matching beliefs

When unmet

  • Compromising values
  • Inner conflict
  • Doing things that don't align with who you are

Common expressions

I need to stay true to my values That would compromise my integrity I can't do that in good conscience

Strategies

  • Clarifying your core values
  • Noticing when actions conflict with values
  • Making amends when you've acted out of integrity
  • Choosing consistency even when costly

Recognition questions

  • Am I living in accordance with my values?
  • Is there a gap between what I say and what I do?
  • Do I feel whole or divided?

Somatic markers

When met

  • A sense of solidity and wholeness
  • Standing upright with nothing to hide
  • Peace from alignment

When unmet

  • Internal conflict and division
  • Shame at inconsistency
  • Fragmentation and unease

Shadow side

  • Rigidity that can't adapt to circumstances
  • Self-righteousness about your integrity
  • Judging others by standards you don't fully meet

Cultural considerations

Integrity frameworks vary: personal values, family honour, professional codes, religious principles, community standards. Conflicts between frameworks are common.

Related needs

Often confused with

Honesty

Honesty is about truth-telling; integrity is about living consistently with your values.

See also