Self-worth
Also known as self-esteem, self-value
The need to feel valuable and worthy in your own eyes. An internal sense that you matter and have worth, independent of external validation.
When met or unmet
When met
- Feeling valuable in your own eyes
- Internal sense of worth
- Not needing constant external validation
When unmet
- Feeling worthless or inadequate
- Self-esteem dependent on others' opinions
- Persistent self-doubt
Common expressions
I don't feel good enough I need to prove my worth I'm finally starting to value myself
Strategies
- Acknowledging your own accomplishments
- Treating yourself with the kindness you would offer a friend
- Challenging negative self-talk
- Acting in alignment with your values
Recognition questions
- → Do I feel I have value as a person?
- → Is my self-worth dependent on achievement or external approval?
- → Do I treat myself as someone who matters?
Somatic markers
When met
- Grounded sense of self
- Quiet confidence
- Ease in your own skin
When unmet
- Feeling worthless or inadequate
- Persistent shame
- Comparing yourself unfavourably to others
Shadow side
- Grandiosity or narcissism
- Needing constant self-affirmation
- Dismissing feedback that challenges inflated self-image
Cultural considerations
Self-worth sources vary: achievement, relationships, spirituality, character. Individualist cultures may emphasise unique accomplishments; collectivist cultures may tie worth to role fulfilment.
Related needs
Often confused with
To matter
To matter is about significance to others; self-worth is internal valuing regardless of external recognition.